Hands off my rights, Mr. Sweet

News Nov 22, 2006 Flamborough Review

(Re: Change for the better, Review, January 27)

Come on, Megan, open your eyes! Let's see if I can persuade you to see the Promise Keepers from a different viewpoint.

In last week's column you say you looked on the Promise Keepers web site and it didn't scare you one bit. What did you expect - that they'd announce to the world an intention to put men back at the head of the family, with women in second place? Of course the promises on their web site sound innocuous and even, yes, good for women too. But let's look a little more closely at just one of their seven promises, and what this promise made by men actually means for women.

Promise Number 4: A Promise Keeper is committed to building strong marriages and families through love, protection and biblical values.

Sounds good for women, right? But NOW, the National Organization of Women points out that:

As feminists, we have long urged men to take responsibility in the home, as the Promise Keepers claim to do. However, when they say "taking responsibility," they mean taking control. Promise Keepers openly call for wives to "submit" to their husbands.

Promise Keepers do not encourage a relationship of equals in a marriage. Rather, they call for men to "take" their role as the leader in the family." Promise Keeper Tony Evans stated "I am not suggesting that you ask for your role back, I am urging you to take it back. There can be no compromise here."

A young woman at a recent "Chosen Women" Rally, a female counterpart to the all-male Promise Keepers, stated, "Our job is to submit to our teachers and our Professors...even if we know they are wrong. It is then in God's hands." PK expects women to submit not only in our homes but also in the secular world of the classroom and workplace.

The biblical values that the promise refers to are the values found through a literal reading of the Bible, designed for social systems in place thousands of years ago, and based on a patriarchal, hierarchical pattern with the man at the head of the family above his wife.

Where in this system is there room for women's rights? Progressive churches have moved beyond this literal interpretation of the Bible, but not the Promise Keepers.

Many of the other promises hold a similarly regressive, fundamental agenda inside an innocent, even beneficial exterior. As a woman, teacher, mother and grandmother, I have spent much of my life supporting the fight for equal rights for women, for gays, for the underprivileged. I've seen great progress in law, in customs, in attitudes, in homes and in the workplace. I don't want to see these advances overturned.

I have a message for Mr. Sweet:

Congratulations on your election. I wish you well as you go to Ottawa to represent me and my riding. But hands off my rights! I'm watching how you keep your promises!

Lisbie Rae

Freelton

Hands off my rights, Mr. Sweet

News Nov 22, 2006 Flamborough Review

(Re: Change for the better, Review, January 27)

Come on, Megan, open your eyes! Let's see if I can persuade you to see the Promise Keepers from a different viewpoint.

In last week's column you say you looked on the Promise Keepers web site and it didn't scare you one bit. What did you expect - that they'd announce to the world an intention to put men back at the head of the family, with women in second place? Of course the promises on their web site sound innocuous and even, yes, good for women too. But let's look a little more closely at just one of their seven promises, and what this promise made by men actually means for women.

Promise Number 4: A Promise Keeper is committed to building strong marriages and families through love, protection and biblical values.

Sounds good for women, right? But NOW, the National Organization of Women points out that:

As feminists, we have long urged men to take responsibility in the home, as the Promise Keepers claim to do. However, when they say "taking responsibility," they mean taking control. Promise Keepers openly call for wives to "submit" to their husbands.

Promise Keepers do not encourage a relationship of equals in a marriage. Rather, they call for men to "take" their role as the leader in the family." Promise Keeper Tony Evans stated "I am not suggesting that you ask for your role back, I am urging you to take it back. There can be no compromise here."

A young woman at a recent "Chosen Women" Rally, a female counterpart to the all-male Promise Keepers, stated, "Our job is to submit to our teachers and our Professors...even if we know they are wrong. It is then in God's hands." PK expects women to submit not only in our homes but also in the secular world of the classroom and workplace.

The biblical values that the promise refers to are the values found through a literal reading of the Bible, designed for social systems in place thousands of years ago, and based on a patriarchal, hierarchical pattern with the man at the head of the family above his wife.

Where in this system is there room for women's rights? Progressive churches have moved beyond this literal interpretation of the Bible, but not the Promise Keepers.

Many of the other promises hold a similarly regressive, fundamental agenda inside an innocent, even beneficial exterior. As a woman, teacher, mother and grandmother, I have spent much of my life supporting the fight for equal rights for women, for gays, for the underprivileged. I've seen great progress in law, in customs, in attitudes, in homes and in the workplace. I don't want to see these advances overturned.

I have a message for Mr. Sweet:

Congratulations on your election. I wish you well as you go to Ottawa to represent me and my riding. But hands off my rights! I'm watching how you keep your promises!

Lisbie Rae

Freelton

Hands off my rights, Mr. Sweet

News Nov 22, 2006 Flamborough Review

(Re: Change for the better, Review, January 27)

Come on, Megan, open your eyes! Let's see if I can persuade you to see the Promise Keepers from a different viewpoint.

In last week's column you say you looked on the Promise Keepers web site and it didn't scare you one bit. What did you expect - that they'd announce to the world an intention to put men back at the head of the family, with women in second place? Of course the promises on their web site sound innocuous and even, yes, good for women too. But let's look a little more closely at just one of their seven promises, and what this promise made by men actually means for women.

Promise Number 4: A Promise Keeper is committed to building strong marriages and families through love, protection and biblical values.

Sounds good for women, right? But NOW, the National Organization of Women points out that:

As feminists, we have long urged men to take responsibility in the home, as the Promise Keepers claim to do. However, when they say "taking responsibility," they mean taking control. Promise Keepers openly call for wives to "submit" to their husbands.

Promise Keepers do not encourage a relationship of equals in a marriage. Rather, they call for men to "take" their role as the leader in the family." Promise Keeper Tony Evans stated "I am not suggesting that you ask for your role back, I am urging you to take it back. There can be no compromise here."

A young woman at a recent "Chosen Women" Rally, a female counterpart to the all-male Promise Keepers, stated, "Our job is to submit to our teachers and our Professors...even if we know they are wrong. It is then in God's hands." PK expects women to submit not only in our homes but also in the secular world of the classroom and workplace.

The biblical values that the promise refers to are the values found through a literal reading of the Bible, designed for social systems in place thousands of years ago, and based on a patriarchal, hierarchical pattern with the man at the head of the family above his wife.

Where in this system is there room for women's rights? Progressive churches have moved beyond this literal interpretation of the Bible, but not the Promise Keepers.

Many of the other promises hold a similarly regressive, fundamental agenda inside an innocent, even beneficial exterior. As a woman, teacher, mother and grandmother, I have spent much of my life supporting the fight for equal rights for women, for gays, for the underprivileged. I've seen great progress in law, in customs, in attitudes, in homes and in the workplace. I don't want to see these advances overturned.

I have a message for Mr. Sweet:

Congratulations on your election. I wish you well as you go to Ottawa to represent me and my riding. But hands off my rights! I'm watching how you keep your promises!

Lisbie Rae

Freelton